One of my favorite aspects of my practice is acting as a mediator.  I have been a mediator for over 25 years.  I have met with and helped countless couples come to terms with the ending of their relationship or marriage.  With my help they have amicably resolved their differences culminating in an agreement that is fair and suits them as individuals and as a family if they have children together.  Many of these agreements are creative, well-thought-out, practical and truly meet the couple’s needs.  As a mediator at the DePalo Law Firm I use my expertise, extensive knowledge and wisdom as a divorce attorney with over 35 years experience to know what questions to ask and how to draft the best agreement for a particular situation and couple.  The agreement takes into account the present as well as the future.  

I act as the facilitator when I mediate and do not advocate for either side but ask probing questions and play devil’s advocate on a particular issue, problem, or possible solution.  We discuss the benefits, drawbacks, and possible consequences of certain decisions or options.

If I had to say what is the key to a successful mediation I would say remaining in the process and to attend in-person sessions.  I often tell couples we cannot mediate by email.  It is necessary to meet and see each other face to face.  Presence  and being present to each other during mediation is very important to the mediation process.   

It also may take some time to work through issues such as parenting.  We may need to try out a certain schedule; or we may need to learn how to better communicate, co-parent, and the couple may need to learn can keep each other informed.  We may need information such as an appraisal for a home, business, or pension. Experts may need to be engaged. A successful mediation must be taken step by step.  Every couple and situation is unique and you deserve the time and attention to come up with the best agreement for your emotional and financial health. 

We do not have to follow cookie-cutter formulas that the courts rely on and attorneys take for granted. The law is explained and discussed but in mediation we focus on what is most important and advantageous to each of party and then figure out how to get there.

This is your relationship and your life, give it your all and choose what is best for you.  I am here to help you do that and it is an honor to do so.  For more information contact the DePalo Law Firm.